What is the Best Way to Make Him Regret Dumping You?

The best thing I know is to use this unpleasant experience to learn the best lesson, improve what you need to, and be a better version of yourself. Show him the beauty it brought you when he walked out of your life. 

Yes, it’s inevitable to look weak and hopeless in his eyes during the first days after the breakup. But don’t settle in that miserable situation. Don’t stay stagnant. Don’t make your life a total mess up. You have a lot of options, but it’s your decision that will matter in the end. So in the ordeal of life, please choose to move forward. Show him that you’ve become a wiser, better, and bolder person from the pain he injected into your heart. Don’t let him weaponize this experience to attack you at your weakest point, physically and emotionally— the memories and all— and put you deeper down. Slowly, stand up, grip tightly to your strength and objective, then face it. Make yourself believe that there’s tomorrow, and trust God’s plan and of course, yourself. For me, that’s the best revenge. I mean, not to pretend you’re ok when you’re really not. But to show him that you can continue a happy and different life even without him. Trust me, it has an impact on him. 

I don’t suggest to prematurely open your heart for another relationship immediately. I believe in the philosophy of memories and I know that everyone needs time to heal completely. You know, it’s too dangerous to love someone again if you’re guilty that you’ve not yet fixed what needed to be fixed. Before you step up to this level, make sure that you’re fully able to rebuild yourself anew. Because if not, you’re like a soldier going to a battle again with wounds still bleeding. You’re only bringing yourself into another painful sequel. 

Give yourself a break. Steal this moment of recovery to allow yourself enjoy some rest. Because I know that during those days you were in a relationship, you set aside those things that supposedly for yourself. You unconditionally gave your all until you ran out of something for yourself. Reward yourself with the things you deprived yourself of. Do the things you resisted to do before. And use this time to make yourself a better version. That’s the best revenge. Show him what he lost. 

If you decide to go this way and do these things, I’m sure you’ll find happiness somewhere in time. For me, love is not a circus game, so no need to bounce back the pain and make him regret his loss. I mean, you don’t have to put so much effort for it, because I believe it will come naturally. He will realize it soon himself. So instead of focusing on him, why not devote this time to yourself. Learn to forgive and set yourself free. I think it’s way better, right?     

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