I Still Love My Ex, How Can I Stop Missing Him?

Take note of this. You will only able to stop missing your ex if you would learn to yourself how to let him go. 

I’m not sure if I’m the right person to talk about this, but I’ll try to share with you what I know. First, it’s because I don’t have any experience of not getting over someone. Second, I believe that my partner is my first and absolutely my last. But for people who had a bitter love story and are wishing to successfully move forward, I do assure you that there’s a way and there is hope. So stop crying. You’ll be fine. Just allow yourself to be. 

I know moving on is really a long-term process and investment. Of course, you’re not going to get over someone within one sleepless night. You have to do it slowly, but surely. But most importantly, you need to equip yourself with an adequate willingness to be on the road to recovery. 

So here’s our checklist to help you do it step by step. 

Give yourself some space to lament. You know, you lose someone in your life. So it’s normal to cry, reminisce, and grieve. Don’t pretend you’re ok when you’re really not. Show your true self during these trying times. We all need emotional release to feel better. All of us undergo this process, so don’t be afraid. This is the gate that will us straight to step number 2, the core of moving on. 

Acceptance. You will never arrive at this stage if you won’t go through the first two I mentioned. I can say that this is the climax of what we’re talking about. When you reach this stage, it means that you’re starting to detach from that heart-breaking experience of yours, giving you the strength and the resources to leave it in the past. It will take time to be here, but once you reach this point, it’s going to be a sure relief. Acceptance that he’s already out of your story. Acceptance that you need to move forward in your own feet. And the acceptance that there’s happiness even without him. Once you’re able to bring all these things together, congratulations, positive outcomes you’re looking forward to will follow like falling dominos. You’re going to be officially free from any worries, concerns, and underlying expectations concerning your ex. There is where a new beginning for you will start to shine. So, you have to keep going until you reach this stage. Because being here is the only confirmatory signal that you’ve gained victory over your painful heart-break.

Open your mind and your heart to understand happened. This is very important. Even if it’s difficult, you should try to go back and trace out where both of you went wrong. This is not to make you cry, but this is the way I know to understand what happened and start wrapping up. To make it clearer, understanding serves as first aid and turntable that will bring you the last and most crucial step. This is what you need to remember, resisting to do this will not allow you to move forward. 

I assure you that if you’ve successfully ticked these all off, you’ll completely stop missing your ex. Good luck.  

(I got this question from Quora, the largest online forum site. Some questions are requested and some are randomly chosen. If you need some answers to your life-challenging and heart-breaking questions, I’ll be here to help you. Message me here or visit my Quora homepage to reach me out directly.)  

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